When Japanese people shake hands with
westerners, we sometimes bow while shaking hands. It might look comical to you, but I have
probably done it myself before, hahaha.
I know that it looks funny but bowing is so natural for us and we
naturally bow when greeting. However, the
opposite thing can happen to westerners. When westerners bow in Japanese style, some of
them stick out their heads forward. It
looks comical for us, too. Why do you
think it happens?
In the western greeting, you shake hands as
you look straight at the eyes of the other person, which expresses integrity. I think that this manner makes some
westerners try to look at the other person even when they are bowing. It makes their chin up and causes the
sticking of their heads.
In Japanese greeting, we show our respect
by removing our gaze from the other person.
Staring at someone directly is considered rude. (There seem to be some exceptions, for bowing
in some martial arts, we look at the opponent.) I’ve never thought of the reasons behind the
manner of bowing, but I’ve just learned it from a book that I’ve read. hehehe. This idea makes sense to me also when comparing
with the practice of bowing in the tea ceremony. When we greet formally in a ceremony, we
place a folding fan on the floor in front of us to create a temporal borderline
with it. It is the sign of condescension
by not directly facing to the other person.
It supports aforementioned idea.
Not understanding these cultural
backgrounds makes our greeting comical.
This is what I have learned from my tea
school and some books. Bowing varies
school to school and person to person, but this is how I do it. I’m not sure if you want to know but I’ll
share some detailed tips:
Move your hand smoothly by traveling along
your lap and place them on the floor in front of your knees.
Retain a small space between both hands and
make a triangle with your thumbs and index fingers. Line up the four fingers, which looks
beautiful. Touch the floor without your palm making in
contact to the floor, to make your hand look gentle.

Bend your hip and tilt your upper body with
a straight back. Try not to curl your
back.
Look at the floor a little far from you, with
your chin down
When raising your body back, do not push up
with your arms, use your back.
Take back your hand smoothly with the backward
motion
Now, you are one of the people who can bow beautifully
in the tea room.
If I have a chance to shake hands, I’ll try
to look at the other person’s eyes and try not to bow at the same time. If you have a chance to do Japanese bowing,
try to look at the floor!